On Calmness of Mind

Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom. It is the result of long and patient effort in self-control. Its presence is an indication of ripened experience, and of a more than ordinary knowledge of the laws and operations of thought.

—James Allen

If I asked you to show me a symbol of self-discipline, you might think of a Buddhist monk, capable of sitting still for hours on end with an empty mind and only a hint of a smile on his face, content simply to be .

Such self-control feels like a superpower in today’s busy and fast-moving world, in which distractions lurk at every corner and buzz in every pocket. A person who’s capable of maintaining calmness of mind is a rare individual — but fortunately you can also become one, if you’re only willing to put in some effort.

Implementing some kind of a meditative practice in your weekly schedule will not only help you increase your self-control and develop more patience, but also reduce your stress and make you feel happier.

The most common practice to learn how to calm your mind is to meditate.

However, meditation isn’t the only habit that puts you in a meditative state.


The key to developing everyday calmness is focusing your attention on the present moment or on a single activity that you’re performing. Engaging in a high-focus sport like yoga, rock climbing, or boxing can be a good way to tap into this state — and so can be something as mundane as gardening, dancing, or knitting.

The more often you put yourself in a meditative state, the calmer you’ll become in everyday situations. Cultivating calmness will lead to even more self- control, and that will lead to an ever-heightening ability to control your state of mind and prevent emotions from clouding your judgment.

365 Days With Self-Discipline – Martin Meadows
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Over Thinking Is Harmful

It’s been proven that overthinking causes negative effects on your mind and body. It’s actually causes quite a bit of stress. Stress is never good for anyone.

sample35.jpgWe  all  battle  with  overthinking  from  time  to  time.  Most  of  us  battle with it daily actually. It’s something that just comes in this busy fast-paced society that we live in. It often seems like our  minds  are  pushed to the extreme, overloaded  with  complexity  and  never  turned off from the troubles and pressures of reality. This makes for an over- worked   mindset   which   causes   chaos   and   high   stress   in   our   lives.

I never realized how busy my  mind was until I tried to meditate. I wasn’t  in yoga  class. I definitely wasn’t wearing yoga  pants. I was in the show-    er. That’s where I do a lot of my intense thinking.  It’s actually the only  place I can get peace and quiet, where my wife isn’t enlisting me in any do-it-yourself projects  around  the  house,  or  the  kids  aren’t  screaming in my ear. Come to think of it, the shower is my  man cave. It’s the  place  that  allows  me  to  take   a  deep  breath  and  digest  my   thoughts.

Anyway. Getting back to my meditation. No matter how far I tried to force my mind from stopping its cycle of thoughts I just couldn’t do it. I challenged myself to stop thinking; to have a clear mind, free of any thought for  even just 60 seconds, but it felt nearly impossible. I tried over and   over again, but every time I tried I failed. I just couldn’t free my  mind   from thought. I mean, I could put away a thought or two here and there but when it came to complete silence, free from all thought completely, it just wasn’t happening. I couldn’t believe how difficult this task was.

I then challenged myself to a much simpler goal of clearing my mind for 30 sec-onds – half the initial amount, but even that was difficult. Over and over I tried to clear my mind, for even just 20 to 30 seconds, but the most I could do was 15 seconds. This lesson taught me what the true challenges are in life – having a clear mind free from thought; to stop our minds from overthinking all the time.

I was able to put it into perspective for myself – how bad overthinking affected my own mind. I knew I was a busy minded individual and that I focus on multiple tasks each day but I never realized how busy my mind actually is all time until now. Even multitasking is a form of over thinking. It can cloud your mind.

When your mind is clouded with thought you miss out on the important opportunities that are staring your right at you. You fail to see what’s going on around you. You miss tidbits of important conversations, you miss the fun times. And you fail to experience the true meaning of living; to find peace and enjoyment in the moment.

Yoga is one highly recommended way to relax your mind. It’s a great way to exercise your mind muscles and learn to become one with yourself; to be spiritual. It also gives you an opportunity to reset your thoughts for more congruent images related to your values and happiness.

Slooooow your mind down and relieve the stress at least once a day. Take a walk, try yoga. Whatever you need to slow down the pace of your mind. You’ll be glad you did.


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Judging Someone Else

We all do it from time to time – judge others. It’s like it’s written in our DNA, like a survival instinct or something. We are all guilty when it comes to judging others. When you judge another person you’re actually judging yourself. Every time you place an evaluation on someone’s characteristics or weaknesses you’re actually placing an evaluation on yourself about the very same thing. For example: if you see someone who has large hips or a receding hairline there’s a good chance you’re self-conscious about that very thing. Judgement is used to make yourself feel better about yourself. That’s it. It has no other reasoning in our lives.


Those who dish out the most negativity; those who are the most judge- mental. And those who make the nastiest comments about others are usually extremely unhappy people. So, when you place judgement on another person that means you’re dissatisfied with yourself. Yes, we all give a quick judgments here and there, but if you see yourself consistently judging others there’s reason to look within instead of constantly seeing the weakness in others. Judging others serves no purpose other than a distraction to your own fears about yourself.

The Truth About Life – Kerry Girling


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If you can’t find a way, make one

Inner belief and conviction creates resilience. Self belief carries the creative through troubled times. It is a shield from the negativity of others.


The creative person’s refusal to compromise can make them unpopular, but the important thing is to create at all costs.

Critics and the public attacked the early work of Édouard Manet. He painted ordinary working people with loose,sketchy brush strokes and simplified details, which was innovative and radical for the time.Manet’s work was ridiculed when exhibited in private galleries. The Paris Salon consistently rejected his work.

When Manet wanted to exhibit at the Paris World’s Fair,no one was interested. But he didn’t adapt his work to make it more acceptable;he simply built his own pavilion and put on his own exhibition.

When his painting Olympia was finally accepted by the Salon, the public jeered and spatat it. Critics savaged it. Caricatures appeared in newspapers. He carried on regardless. His belief in himself was unshaken.

In later years Manet was vindicated when the Impressionists came to revere him as the pivotal figure in the transition from Realism to Impressionism, and he finally gained the recognition he deserved.

He didn’t let the critics change his mind, he changed theirs.

If you are an actor, produce a play and cast yourself.

If you’re a writer, publish your own book.

If you’re in a rock band, record and distribute your own CD.

You have to believe in yourself and your work. If you don’t, how can you expect anyone else to?

There will always be tough times. There will always be critics.

Something has to carry you through the difficult times. It can only be your inner belief in yourself. Happiness is not an absence of problems, but the determination to deal with them.

Change your  Mind – 52 Ways to unlock your creative self
– Rod Judskin
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When A Goal Doesn’t Come To Fruition Soon Enough

They say that anything can happen, and a goal, no matter what it is will be brought to fruition sooner or later, it just takes time. I happen to be one of those people. I’ve personally experienced it many times, where I’ve set my mind to achieve something and within days, weeks or months I’ve already accomplished it. This is no different than anything you’ve already achieved. Nothing can be brought to fruition without the initial thought of accomplishing it.


The truth is; anything can happen if you believe in it. It will come to you if you stick to your belief and never sway in the opposite direction. But if you allow the negativity around you to overcome your ambition you simply will NOT accomplish it. Your thoughts are more powerful than you may realize. You must protect them from the negative forces that surrounds your every decision in life.

I understand it can be difficult when something doesn’t happen – something you’ve been expecting to happen, like a goal you’ve been working on for a long time and nothing is happening. Here’s my advice on this.

There are a few reasons perhaps why your goal hasn’t been brought to fruition. Maybe you’ve lost faith in it. After putting your hard efforts into some- thing you’ve believed in for so long, meanwhile failing miserably so many times, in the midst, you lost your faith in your goal. You don’t believe it’s possible anymore.

The second possibility is that negative Karma is weighing you down. Often times over-achievers are also over-deviants; they do more negative things than the average individual because they risk more than the average person. They’re more active in general. And, as you’ve read in my previous entries, doing negative things brings negative Karma. This means your goal may have been put on the slow track to success because of your negative habits in the past. It’s possible your negative Karma is keeping you from achieving it.

When a goal doesn’t come to fruition soon enough chalk it up has bad karma or that you’ve lost faith in your abilities and choose to move forward beyond those limitations. Your goal is worthwhile, otherwise you wouldn’t have set it in the first place. It will come with a little more positive effort and faith. Trust it.

The Truth About Life – Kerry Girling
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HAPPINESS is congruent to your values and beliefs and the decisions you make on a daily basis

Happiness comes and goes based on the quality of people you bring into  it, and by the choices you make each day. You’ll notice that your happiness changes from day to day. Healthier choices and surrounding yourself with more positive people will make you a happier person. 

Nobody is 100% happy all the time. Regardless if you have all the money in the world, if you have healthy children and you’re healthy yourself, or you have the best career possible, there’s still plenty of mishaps and miss-for- tune to experience regardless of where you are in life. During our difficult stages is when happiness is lost because the difficult times harness stress and discomfort. It is during the difficult times when your life clarity starts to unfold. There is actually a lot of positive learning experiences within each of our negative experiences. You just need to search for them. But, who actually searches for the good when bad things happen? Happier people do.


Most think happiness is only accessible to the elite; the ones with the most power and the most money, or the most materialistic things; when, in actuality, it doesn’t take any of this to become truly happy. Often times, it’s the exact opposite actually. The people with the least become the happiest because they don’t have any materialistic things to break down on them. They’re not in competition with anyone else for more of anything either. As long as you’re healthy and have a positive mindset you have the criteria to fulfil your own happiness.

Happiness is a state of mind. It’s not an external force or something you can buy. It’s something that only comes from within. You have the ability to harness exponential happiness all the time. You just need to decide to open your heart, let go of your frustrations and appreciate what you already have. You will soon start to see what I’m talking about when you realize that even the elite are unhappy people.

Take some time to reflect on your habitual daily choices. Pay attention to how your choices reflect the quality of your life. Write down any activities you do regularly that act as road blocks to achieving happiness. Are you spending too much time pursuing activities incongruent with your happiness? How do these activities reflect your values and beliefs? Are they getting you closer to ideal happiness, or are they standing in your way from achieving the lifestyle you wish for?

Often times we don’t realize we harness an issue until we actually unfold it for ourselves. This exercise takes some deep thinking and brainstorming, but even a slight focus on it will enable you to free yourself from limiting beliefs and habits. Sometimes it only takes a couple of tweaks to pursue a happier life. There’s a good chance you only need to remove a couple incongruent habits or even a slight perspective change to waiver a happier life.

Imagine your daily routine in your mind. Which activities bring happiness? Which ones are straining you from achieving an ideal lifestyle? Write them down. Create a list of the unfavorable activities, and decide to eliminate them one at a time simply by being aware of them.

Chose to let go of what’s been holding you back in life. Most likely it’s an experience that really has no validity in your life anymore. You are an entirely new and dif- ferent person since that very ex-perience. It’s time to let go of your emotional attachment to it.

The Truth About Life – Kerry Girling
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There’s Always Someone Going Through A Lot Worse Than You

Take some time to think about some of the negative things your friends, family and colleagues are going through currently. I’m sure you’ll realize there are people in your direct circle that are going through something a lot worse than your currently experiencing. I know life gets difficult at times but just knowing there’s someone going through a far worse situation makes all the difference sometimes. Life isn’t always positive. There’s ups and downs, trials and triumphs and everything in between. These are pertinent to understanding life and its importance. Each struggle we experience is also an opportunity to make positive change for ourselves. It’s really all about perspective.


Nothing worthwhile comes without some kind of fight, so strap on your boxing gloves and fight the obstacles standing in your way. Sometimes your biggest obstacle is your own mindset. The quicker you can accept the situation, the easier you can move on with a smile. There always someone going through a more difficult situation than you, no matter what situation you’re going through.

Challenge  yourself today to  eliminate the negativity  that clouds your  mind. When a negative thought pops into your   mind   replace it with a thought the  puts  a  smile on your  face.

The Truth About Life – Kerry Girling
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