Transform weakness into strength

Weakness is nothing to be ashamed of. It is something to be worked on.

It’s good to improve on your strengths. It’s even better, though, to make improvements in the areas that are your weaknesses.

When you improve on your strengths, you get good incremental gains. Yet when you can transform a weakness into a strength, you get major, life-changing gains.


Be willing to admit what you don’t know, what you are not experienced at doing, and what you don’t understand. Then get busy learning, developing your skills, and increasing your understanding.

Instead of using your weaknesses as excuses, use them as pathways for improvement. Instead of resigning yourself to whatever’s holding you back, challenge yourself to find a way around it.

Be honest and realistic with yourself about where you are coming up short. Then do the work, transform that weakness into strength, and move forward faster than ever before.

— Ralph Marston
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You Only Have So Much Time

You  can only make so many people happy,  and no matter what you do, some   folks will never be satisfied because they depend on you for their happiness, which is selfish of them. They’re toxic, and you’ll be better off without them. Put yourself first, it’s not selfish.

Expecting others to put you first; that is selfish. You’re writing your story right now.

If your life were a movie, would anyone want to watch it? Our favorite movies always have our hero overcoming challenges and becoming better for it. Are you trying to overcome your challenges or running from anything that is remotely uncomfortable?

In this day and age where everyone is praised and congratulated for every little accomplishment, I think it would be important to focus on those who are still  trying to overcome the obstacles. Instead of celebrating the winners, let’s  celebrate those who are trying  to  win,  still  uncomfortable,  grinding,  earning every inch they receive. Encouragement goes a long way.

Things tend to look easy after they’re done and impossible before. Every person with aspirations will hit obstacles and meet naysayers. It’s up to us to decide whether we want to focus on those telling us why we should give up, or those  that are pushing us along the way with their positivity. It’s also up to us to decide  if we’re helping others on the way, or giving them reasons to throw in the towel.


I don’t know what my story will be like when it’s all said and done. When I’m dead, my legacy won’t be of much importance to me. Although I do know that I would not be able to exist in the present peacefully, knowing that I gave up on exploring what I have inside simply because things became difficult.

I’m a survivor, so are you, it’s what’s  makes us a special form of life on this  planet, we adapt, change and grow to enhance our ability to exist and thrive.

We all have the ability to be the heroes of our own story.

UnLearn – 101 Simple Truths for Better Life – Humble Poet
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Comparisons are Killers

We can’t be ourselves if we don’t know ourselves, and we can’t know ourselves, if all we know about who we are, is in comparison to others.

We will never know the problem, bullsh*t, and stresses that others are going through, nor do we need to. What we would be better off doing with that time is exploring who we are on the inside.

I know it’s hard, we see everyone around us doing awesome things, it has been engrained into the culture to try and keep up, but really there’s nothing to keep     up to, and no one to keep up with.


Instead of comparing yourself with others, try connecting yourself with others. The more connections you make, the more you’ll learn about the world, and yourself. There’s a lot we can learn about ourselves through our relationships with others; they’ll bring out sides of us we never knew existed.

If you want to be happy you have to recognize the things in your life worth appreciating. If you’re spending all your time finding that in others, instead of yourselves, then nothing but misery can come.

Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, and  celebrate  your  evolution. There’s plenty to appreciate in the direction you’re   headed.

UnLearn – 101 Simple Truths for Better Life – Humble Poet
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Effective focus

Stop worrying about what you’re not getting done. Focus on being effective at what you’re doing right now.

Fretting and complaining that there’s not enough time will only waste more of your time. Just take one task, let go of your thoughts about everything else, and get it finished.


At any point in time, you’re either focused on one thing or focused on another. It is always your choice to make.

When the distractions entice you to lose focus, remind yourself that you can always indulge in them later. And get right back to the work at hand.

You’ll have plenty of time to do what you wish to do if you’ll simply spend your time actually doing it. You can be enormously productive when you put the power of focus to work for you.

Give all your attention to the task at hand. Feel the power, feel the effectiveness of keeping yourself tightly and effectively focused.

— Ralph Marston
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Starting is the Hardest Part

We use our imagination to create something we don’t want, that’s worrying. Worrying leads to fear, fear leads to hesitation and paralysis. Then nothing gets done.

“You  don’t have to be great to get started, but you have to get started to be    great.” – Les Brown

I’m most productive when I’m excited. When I finish a track, it feels as if I’ve laid a final brick on a giant wall, or placed the last stone on a pyramid. I can vibe on the track, and then find energy to start working on another. The most  productive element comes from starting. It’s the hump that’s the hardest to get  over, but can fuel momentum to get the job   done.


We all feel overwhelmed, the best way to escape that problem is to solve it, head on. Just imagine yourself slowly chipping away. Baby steps in the right direction count, and they’ll add up overtime. Patience isn’t for waiting; patience is for allowing the necessary time to make things happen.

Right now is a moment you can utilize to move closer to the things that make you happy. It’s your life, and you’re at the wheel; take it where you want it to go.

UnLearn – 101 Simple Truths for Better Life – Humble Poet


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Live thanks

The real power of gratitude comes not from merely saying you’re thankful, but from living your thankfulness. Now, and always, is when you do that.


Being thankful for your life means doing something beautiful and meaningful with it. It’s never too early or too late to start.

A life that taps into the awesome power of gratitude is a life that’s fully lived. Today is your opportunity to express your thanks by adding new substance, joy and meaning to life.

The way to truly give thanks is to live thanks. Remind yourself constantly how precious your life is, and live each day to give it the fulfillment it deserves.

Living your thankfulness opens your awareness to new possibilities. And in those new possibilities you’ll find even more ways to bring your thankfulness to life.

In ways large and small, with all kinds of people, in every conceivable situation, live your thanks. Make the positive, affirming magic of gratitude an everyday part of your world.

— Ralph Marston
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Take a break

You can maintain better focus when you regularly spend time being completely unfocused. Your efforts can become much more effective by routinely taking a break from them.

The cycle of effort and rest is a fundamental part of life. Consider all the trees and plants which become dormant in the fall and then burst forth with new growth in the spring. Regular rest is just as necessary to a successful life as focused, disciplined effort is.


To become more effective, you need to routinely spend time not being effective at all. Balance your effort with rest and relaxation. Relax your body. Rest your mind. Ease your spirit. Spend time just being and enjoying. Set yourself apart from your striving and tension. And when you take time to rest, truly rest.

Relax. Forget the pressures, the challenges, the problems. They can wait ­­ they’re not going anywhere.

You’ll need strength and effectiveness to meet those challenges, and a balanced life will help to make you stronger. Effort and rest support one another. A period of quality rest and relaxation enhances your effectiveness when you get back to work. And a day spent in effective effort will make you much better able to rest when the day is over.

Enjoy the benefits of balance. Make the effort, then get some rest. Experience the increased power that comes from regularly recharging your batteries.

Ralph S. Marston, Jr. A – website at


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