One of the most common mistakes we make in a disagreement is to convince ourselves that we must persuade the other person to see our point of view.
But all we really need to do is lay out the facts or circumstances. Though people are first and fore- most emotional creatures, their emotions are guided by rationality and reason— for the most part
When you lay out the facts of a situation—in a calm and collected manner—you appeal to people’s sense of reason. And you demonstrate that you respect their ability to assess the situation with good judgment.
Persuading people, on the other hand, can come off as manipulative. It can send the message that they’re not sensible enough to assess the facts, or that they’re not capable of making a good decision and have to be given passionate direction.
To avoid sending this message, change your tactic. Simply lay out the circumstances or facts of why you have come to your position on a matter, and then give people space—and time—to consider them.
You will be pleasantly surprised by the results. You may not get agreement on every point, but it’s more than likely the person will at least meet you halfway. Many times that is all you can ask