If you want something, you have to go for it. You don’t necessarily have to sacrifice everything (sometimes you do) but you do have to make a firm decision to take action. It’s no good saying you want to give up smoking if you just carry on lighting up and thinking how nice it would be if you could stop. Do something about it.
I know one person who can’t even make a decision about whether to have a cup of tea or a cup of coffee in under five minutes. It usually takes him several years to move houses or to hand in his notice at a job he doesn’t enjoy. Hardly surprising then if he doesn’t often get what he wants.
You have to be firm with yourself. After you’ve identified what you want—and decided why you want it and how much—you need to make a decision about whether you’re going to do something about it. Commitment: That’s what you need. After all, if this is definitely what you want, what are you waiting for?
People who get what they want are generally decisive people. And if you want to do this without having to ask, you need to be doubly firm with yourself. It’s OK—decisive behavior may not come naturally to all of us, but you can learn it. Just jump in with both feet. It gets easier every time.
How to Get What You Want Without Having to Ask – RICHARD TEMPLAR
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