“Confidence, like art, never comes from having all the answers; it comes from being open to all the questions. —Earl Gray Stevens
Being open to new ideas when you are looking to solve a problem is what true learning (as well as confidence-building) is all about. Believe in your own resources and those of people you trust.
If you try to do it all yourself, micro-manage every detail, and don’t welcome new and innovative ideas from those around you, it’s gonna be hard to make it to the next level, or even survive where you currently are.
It is always wise to get some input from the competent people with whom you’ve surrounded yourself. Unless you want to live in a cabin in the middle of nowhere, without a connection to the modern world, you are going to be influenced by everything and everyone around you. Accept the influence, allow it to become a part of you, and let it make you the best you can be. Just be sure to give credit to those people who inspired you.
It makes sense: If you’re secure with yourself, telling someone she had a great idea that you’d like to incorporate would be taken as a compliment. And the truth is that their idea actually did complement yours.
Sometimes the “off the wall” thought, the one you were just messing around with, is the one that makes the biggest impact. I call it playing with ideas; when you do it with other people, you might call it brainstorming. Sometimes someone says something just to be funny or to get a reaction (kids are great at that) and it turns out to be a concept that you totally resonate with.
Sometimes the answers or ideas you need do come from your own head, and you may ignore them if you are being hard on yourself, or your confidence tank is running dry. Learning to be open to your own thoughts, especially during difficult times, is a challenge we all face.
If you are not open to different types of intelligence (ideas from the world around you, and learning by living), your experience and your self-confidence will be greatly limited.
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